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Welcome to RISE

Posted by on February 5, 2014 in Empowerment, Featured Inspiration, Service, Transformation | 7 comments

Welcome to RISE

“Let us put our minds together and see what life we can make for our children.” – Sitting Bull  I want to take this opportunity to welcome you to the RISE community.  Perhaps you found your way here because you are a Survivor looking for healing, peace or justice. Perhaps you are a concerned citizen who wants to help make a difference. Whatever the reason, your choice to engage this community is an affirmation of your awareness that things need to change. I want to thank you for making the time and effort to learn more about how you can help end the cycle of sexual abuse against children. I also want to convey my total and complete dedication to this cause.  We will Repeal the Criminal & Civil Statutes of Limitations and End the Cycle of Sexual Abuse Against Children.  I will continue to be an advocate to this end and I invite you to join me!

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Support the 2016 Ballot Measure

Posted by on February 5, 2014 in Featured Inspiration | Comments Off

Support the 2016 Ballot Measure

  Child sexual abuse is a silent pandemic that can no longer be tolerated. There are approximately 40 MILLION survivors of child sexual abuse in the United States, which is comparable to the population of California. It is an escalating social issue that we have the power to transform NOW through statutes of limitations (SOL) reform. The only thing standing in the way of SOL reform is politics, which is why we are introducing an initiative on the November 2016 ballot in California to repeal both the criminal and civil SOLs pertaining to sexual abuse against children. This course of action bypasses the legislature and takes the vote directly to the people where we can speak with one voice, act collectively and protect our children once and for all. While some politicians propose repealing either the criminal OR civil SOLs, we advocate repealing both criminal AND civil SOLs. We strongly believe that sexual abuse against children is a human rights issue that should be treated more like a heinous act of murder than an ordinary property dispute. Our proposition to repeal both the criminal AND civil SOLs is absolutely viable. Multiple states have already done so and many more are...

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The “Trust problem”

Posted by on February 2, 2014 in Empowerment, Relationships | 0 comments

Well,nothing new if I say that one of the aftermaths of child sexual abuse is the constant lack of trust and difficulty to open up to others.It`s a long battle with yourself how to learn to let people close to you,how to be honest and how to share.Yes,you are a grown up,but the abused child still lives inside you.And this child still remembers. The trust issue persists because that child`s been betrayed by those,whom it believed and trusted and they were the ones who hurt that child the most.Abusers are usually people who the children know and trust.Once betrayed this way in an early age,the abused person learns a lesson:”Don`t trust,don`t open up because nothing good comes from it.Protect yourself by not letting others close”.And this belief stays in the adult`s mind.You may be 30 or 40 years old but deep within you are that child,and you don`t feel that self-worth that others feel.And you don`t feel so confident when you depend on someone,or when you open up to someone.You always have this little voice telling you:”Be careful,you might get hurt”. How can we change that?How can we learn to trust? By trusting. Yes,trusting and letting someone get close to our psyche can...

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Choose Love over Hate.It`s just as simple.

Posted by on February 1, 2014 in Empowerment, Relationships, Transformation | 0 comments

The one you love: When you love him,you want to give him the world. You want to share the world with him. He IS your world.You want to be his world.You  love him and you wish that he loves you back.You see his eyes in your mind when you wake up and you imagine his smile when you close your eyes and go to sleep,and you wish he does the same for you.You are willing to be his friend,his lover and his everything and for you he is just Enough.You don`t need anything and anyone else to be happy.And you wish he needs nothing else but you too.He is the one you choose to love,he is the one you dream of,he is your love.And in life you can meet just One person who shows you why it never worked out with anyone else before.He is the One you love.It`s just as simple and it`s so beautiful. The one you hate: When you hate him,he abducts your world.You don`t want to share your world with him,he even doesn`t deserve to be in your world,but he is there,pretty much breathing the same air like you.You hate him and you wish he never happened to you.You didn`t choose him.You didn`t choose what he did to you.And you didn`t choose him to be that dark part of  your past.You though see his eyes sometimes...

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“I am not what happened to me,I am what I choose to become”

Posted by on November 4, 2013 in Empowerment, Transformation | 0 comments

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”                                                                                                                               –Carl Jung   Studying for my upcoming History of Psychology exam I discovered this thought of Carl Jung,the father of Analytical  Psychology.Though this quote made me think more about  the Humanistic view, Abraham Maslow and Carl Rogers self-actualization  theories ,and this is how I apply this view to”our “issue –surviving child sexual abuse:   Yes,it happened to me.But does it need  to determine my life,myself  and my future? Humanistic theory in Psychology says that we all are who and what we choose to become,that we are capable of amazing things once we discover our full potential. This is the iceberg of a person`s life-the so called self-actualization, the greatest motivating force in personality” like Carl Rogers calls it. Self-actualization is the highest level of psychological health.A psychologically healthy and fully functioning person is the one who is capable to open to all experience,the one who has...

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San Francisco Fundraiser

Posted by on October 20, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

San Francisco Fundraiser

The Event  The Voices Rising – A Promise for the Future includes a fun-filled evening with media coverage to capture each moment as guests arrive and walk the red carpet.  Plan to come, dressed to impress in your finest cocktail attire, and experience firsthand a promise for the future.  This sophisticated event features complimentary hors d’ oeuvres during the VIP reception and cocktail hour along with live music by soul/jazz singer, Monica Marquis and her band. Comedian, Phil Johnson, delivers a laugh a minute, followed by live musical entertainment by Rudy Colombini and the Unauthorized Rolling Stones. In addition to a hosted bar serving wine, beer, and signature cocktails until 9:00p, there will be an exciting live auction as well as a spirited silent auction with notable and unique items. A no-host dinner menu will be available as well. Tickets 5:00p – 6:00p       Red Carpet, Step & Repeat Wall, & VIP Reception with Hors d’oeuvres Enjoy Live Soul/Jazz Band throughout VIP Reception and Cocktail Hour 6:00p – 7:00p       General Admission Cocktail Hour, Hors d’oeuvres & Silent Auction 7:00p – 8:00p       Introductions,...

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It is not easy to love a sexual abuse survivor…

Posted by on October 4, 2013 in Relationships, Voice | 1 comment

The sexual abuse Survivor… He is never there for you because he does not know how to be close ,how to trust,how to belong,how to love and receive love… He knows no real closeness.He is afraid to expose himself to new strong emotions.All this is frightening to him.He has enough to deal with,and why should he risk to get another disappointment?How does he know you will always be by his side and never betray him?And he is so afraid to risk for love because he has been betrayed way too many times in life… He thinks you don`t understand him sometimes because he cannot understand himself most of the time. It is difficult to  live with such a burden on your shoulders.The life of a sexual abuse Survivor is a never ending struggle,never ending fight to prove to others,never ending circle of pain and disappointment,and dealing with it is not easy. The sexual abuse Survivor doesn`t understand himself sometimes and cannot find the words to describe all the emotions and feelings he is going through.He wishes he doesn`t feel this way and he wishes just to wake up one day and forget everything ,and start over his life..Impossible,right?With all this on your mind,it is not easy to...

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Reclaiming My Life – Tara’s Story

Posted by on May 23, 2013 in Education, Empowerment, Relationships, Service, Transformation, Voice, Your Stories | 2 comments

Reclaiming My Life – Tara’s Story

Well I’m now 25 years old and last April I started a blog in which I chose to speak out about my abuse. I am a survivor of childhood molestation by my stepfather and my uncle. Before I had spoken out I was silent for over ten years. The reason I didn’t speak out when it first happened was for two reasons. The first is because when I told my mom that my uncle molested me she didn’t want to believe it since it was her brother. It went on for a few weeks. He would touch me in places he should not be touching and then he would kiss my lips. I didn’t know what was going on. I was never taught good touch bad touch. I thought it was ok for an uncle to treat you like that. I’m not sure when this happened but it was around the age of 9 or 10. I say that was the first person who abused me but it was actually the same time my stepfather started molesting me. It started one day when I was sick in bed and I needed some Vicks vapor rub to be rubbed on my chest and back. Since my mom trusted him she allowed him to rub it on me. He started to rub it on my chest and when he did that, he began to rub my nipples. I felt really uncomfortable but again I didn’t know that it...

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Abuse Is Not Love

Posted by on May 11, 2013 in Law, Relationships, Voice, Your Stories | 1 comment

Hi. My name is not important but my story is to educate others. I’m sure there are a lot out people out there that are blinded by love like I was. I met a man eight years ago and fell in love and he was great. He liked his alcohol a lot and that was not so great but I learned to live with it. I also have a son who is thirteen now but was five then. My man adored me and would tell me how beautiful I was and how lucky he was and totally loved me. Whatever I wanted he made sure I had. It was almost pretty much every night he would be drinking and I would get real nervous because I never knew how he would be. He could be so drunk and want sex and I would just let him because I didn’t want to fight. I have had to fight him before or just try to avoid him and pray he would pass out. One night, about four years ago, he got really drunk and he wasn’t himself and he forced himself on me and tried to choke me because I was fighting him. He said I wasn’t going anywhere he also told me he would kill me. I was so scared. He sodomized me and ripped my underpants. I was the most afraid I had ever been.  The next day his sister and son called the cops when they found...

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Moving Beyond Child Abuse Without Alcohol

Posted by on May 8, 2013 in Empowerment, Health, Relationships, Transformation, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Moving Beyond Child Abuse Without Alcohol

RISE welcomes Melissa, Public Relations Coordinator for St. Jude Retreats, a residential retreat program for those looking to overcome alcohol and drugs. Melissa offers her perspective on why so many Survivors use alcohol to escape the trauma of abuse and how to break this cycle. Experiencing child abuse, whether sexual or physical, can perpetuate trauma throughout a person’s life. In their teen and adult years, the abused child may display acts of outrage, anger, or even act out abusively toward others. Can these acts of violence against a child cause them to become alcoholics? According to a recent study, 31% of the 196 patients in an alcohol treatment program were exposed to child abuse at some point in their lives. So why do victims of abuse turn to alcohol? Child abuse victims often drink to seek relief from their troubled lives. People can have very high expectations of alcohol – it can remove stress, take away problems or make them forget their sorrows. Unfortunately, these effects are only temporary leading people to drink to oblivion in an attempt to permanently numb themselves to their pain. In many cases, people justify this choice to turn to quick...

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